select 
    source_persona_id,
    relation_type,
    message_id,
    reply_to_message_id,
    reshare_of_message_id,
    target_object_id,
    target_persona_id,
    created_at,
    updated_at,
    sent_at
from
    s_relations where (target_object_id is NULL or target_object_id not in (XXX)) and id <XXX into outfile '/tmp/s_relations_new.csv' FIELDS TERMINATED BY ',';